Throw away any books on healthy and delicious sex. There are only two rules in a relationship that really works. They are suitable for both men and women. And those who don’t know them are doomed to waste time and nerves on the wrong people.
Rule one. Relationships should be easy
It should be easy from the very beginning. From the first minutes. A person with whom you immediately feel like old acquaintances suits you more than someone who needs to be courted for years. The guy with whom you are ready to retire in a shopping center toilet in fifteen minutes is better than the one to whom you have been writing letters without an answer for seven years. A girl who immediately shows interest in you is better than an unapproachable beauty who needs to be taken to the Bahamas first.
Simple is good. Difficult means bad. This is an axiom. No need to prove it.
In general, you do not need to prove anything in a relationship at your own expense. You don’t have to strive for anyone, adapt to anyone, and run after anyone. Having done this once, you will do it every day, and in return, you will only see a capricious, displeased face. If it did not work out right away, did not catch fire, did not light up, do not pull the cat by the tail. Difficult relationships are only suitable for those who are bored and have a lot of free time. For everyone else, this suffering only spoils the nerves.
You should not take out a difficult relationship with yourself. A relationship in which all you do is a dance to someone’s tune is humiliating. Sooner or later, the limit of your patience will run out. Don’t let yourself get sucked into a difficult relationship.
The second rule, but no less important from this. Relationships should be fun
This statement also needs no proof. As soon as the relationship has ceased to bring joy and began to bring nasty things, stop this phenomenon in the bud.
Do not get used to showdowns, tears, and smashing dishes. Leave long conversations, accusations, recriminations. It is not normal! This is the road to hell! As soon as joy leaves the relationship – they become useless. It would seem much easier.
But many people chew the chewed-chewed hay of their grievances for years! They occupy their brains with unnecessary disassembly! Do not do this! As soon as you realize that your words are taking away joy, close your mouth. Disassembly begins – leave. The person only wants to blame and reproach – don’t let the guilt plant in you. Go away!
Relationships are for joy. All other relationships “for the sake of the children”, “because everyone lives like this”, “out of habit”, “because without it, it’s even worse” can simply be taken and put in the trash.
Adapted and translated by Wiki Avenue Staff
Sources: Life hacker