We lie to ourselves to calm down and feel better in the present moment, but this isn’t good for our future. Read along with me to find out more.
1. I need X to become Y
It’s hard for us to believe that we already have everything we need to be happy. It always seems that this requires another victory or another change in life. But this is a delusion.
The more success we achieve, the less satisfaction we usually feel. Therefore, you need to constantly remind yourself of what you already have and live in the present. Success comes as a side effect when we do what we love.
Most likely, you now think that something needs to be fixed in your life. That something should happen, after which you can finally be happy. But life changes happen only when we begin to look at ourselves differently and realize that happiness does not require anything but our own permission.
2. The world owes me
Ask yourself why you are worthy of something. You must be rich and successful. Why? What have you done to deserve it? How long have you worked to achieve this? You must have a good relationship. Why? How do you feel about people? Are you working on yourself, or do you expect the other person to be perfect, and you don’t need to change?
We are all fixated on ourselves. We all want to be successful, happy, rich, loved. Just thinking that life owes you something, you doom yourself to disappointment.
You will not wait for a profit in the stock market without first investing in securities. Why are you waiting for the fulfillment of your desires, without spending efforts to achieve them?
When something you’re dreaming about doesn’t happen, ask yourself, “Have I done my best? Am I missing out on something while trying to save time? Maybe I need to be patient?”
Also read: 5 Signs That You Don’t Love Yourself
3. I can’t do anything
When you live a certain way for a long time, it starts to seem to you that you can no longer change anything. When you repeatedly hear that you have reached the ceiling of your capabilities, it isn’t easy to believe that you can more.
But your past should not determine the future. Everyone has difficult moments in life. If you really want to, you can change your life and yourself.
Adapted and translated by Wiki Avenue Staff
Sources: Life hacker